The home is our sanctuary. It is were we come to rest, to heal, to find love and peace, laughter and play with our families. It should have family members making up a small tribe that supports you, helps you reach your potential, raise your vibration.
Everything you bring in this home and to your tribe is crucial. Everything carries a vibration and energy. When you bring it in the home the vibration or energy it has been marinating in will change the energy of the home, will effect the tribe.
I learned this when we fostered for a brief time. Nothing is as simple as it appears in physical form. There is a whole life to it that we can’t see or grasp but we feel it.
It is important to purge and cleanse the home of all things that don’t feel good or right. No need to analyze or question it…that only keeps things the same. Pass it on. Others may not be effected by this piece of furniture or clothing.
Cleaning the house, saging, opening windows for fresh air, filling the home with light, and high vibrational music is important.
I love Christian music or Cuban music. It is very high vibration. I find myself smiling and getting into my cooking and cleaning.
Studying spiritual works, be it the Bible or Zen, Buddhism, or Metaphysics. Whatever feels good and light filled for your soul.
Decorating your home in colors and furnishings that cause happy feelings.
When I did our first walk through of this house after purchasing, I was depressed. I knew we had to strip it and paint it. And we did. Then the old furniture looked too big, awkward and shabby. The bamboo floors had gaps, the white paint created a gloom instead of a brightness I had envisioned. Bali fixed the floors, we painted every room and hall warm and cheerful colors, I gave away all the furniture, paintings, huge lamps. I brought in smaller, nicer furnishings, only one lovely lamp to light the living room in a warm glow.
I now love my home. But it took work and thought and washing, scrubbing, hauling bags, boxes, and large pieces out of the house. It took searching, making some cash to purchase gently used items.
The way my home looked before with it’s lack of color, the messed up floors, the odd furniture…it created discontent and that feeling didn’t go with my morning coffee. Now my home delights me and I love to wander through all 1,000 sq ft with a steaming cup of joe. I take pride in all the lovely, simply items I hand selected. I take pride in all the work my husband and I did to make it bright and beautiful. I take pride in that I spent very little and did it sustainably.
It is just as important to be cautious of who we bring into our homes. Sometimes we must purge old relationships or create some space until we know what the truth is for us in that relationship. Some people drain us. We have all had that person that we spend time with and after they leave we feel depressed and heavy. I’ve had visits that the person left feeling good but I was up all night fearful of the world and politics of this day and age.
I sort of like the sheltering in. I get to nest with my brood and only occasionally invite a person or two into our home if my energy is up and I’m prepared in my mind and heart to receive guest. I enjoy people very much but I prefer the delightful chats I have with strangers in the produce section or bread isle of the store. It is very non committal and a small dose of connection with the community. I adore my neighbors but I keep it light. If they need anything we are here to help, we all watch over each other but it seems we are all working on some big, emotional stuff right now so we give each other the space.
Of course some people come right on in the yard, settle in the kitchen and stay awhile not by our choice but we wind up making them family in short time. I even have a bottle of wine I stash just for one of these neighbors. She chose us and we adore her now.
Cooking good food that is nutritious and has wonderful flavor makes a home. When we move into a new place, the first thing we do is fill the fridge and pantry and start cooking and baking immediately to create that cozy ambiance. I love nothing more than a day in the kitchen listening to a good seminar on a topic I enjoy and making bread by hand along with some large batch cooking for the week. It is an all day process but it ensures a few days of easy meal preparation so I can focus on my writing or just being out and about.
The more I fill my house with comfortable furniture and natural things such as wooden bowls, candles, plants, and a little bit of nature that the boys bring inside in the form of colorful rocks, acorns, feathers, and odd shaped pieces of wood for the forest, the more the homes feels rustic and peaceful like a walk in the woods.
There is nothing like a fresh, clean house with that smell of Ajax. Or that fat, glowing candle on the table that smells of cinnamon rolls. Maybe a little pan of cinnamon sticks and cloves in water simmering on low at the back of the stove.
So, if your home doesn’t feel good right now or you aren’t loving being there, give it a good scrub and tidy up. Do some decluttering. Cook some delicious food in your kitchen. Light a candle or two. I like to have one in the bathroom and one on the dining room table. Play some nice music in the background or a movie. Sometimes I have TV on just as a background noise. I’m one of the weirdos that like the color, images and laugh tracks in my living room by playing a sitcom. I usually don’t even watch the TV with full attention.
Fill that pantry and fridge with good stuff. Bake a cake on Saturday night just because it’s Saturday night.