Time to get out of here.

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Good morning, everyone. I have been up since very early and I did something foolish that I have not done before, even with all the warnings. I went on the Gossip Bakery site and fell down the dark hole. And all I can say is…wow.

They choose YouTubers and just go for it. Some of them, and I know you (Gossip Bakery) all will read and share this now, seem obsessed. There were videos up with my dialogue analyzed, my blogs up with things highlighted and underlined. There were even minutes taken on so many of my past videos. It’s crazy, as if they study and take notes from years of videos and blogs. Who has time for this? And why? As they say, I’m not that interesting.

I wish I hadn’t gone on there, you can’t unburn toast, as my son says. But it is done.

Oh well. I rather not be the subject for anyone’s rampages. I was foolish with the first channel in sharing too much. I was new and had no idea what I was getting into. This time I was foolish to come back.

I used to love blogging and vlogging. I would sit with my coffee and write and it was my peaceful, happy space. Not anymore. I feel like it has all been defiled. I can literally feel the inspiration and joy being drained from my soul. I wish I had never been told of that site. Ignorance is bliss. But some tried to be protective and for that I’m appreciative.

So, there are no accidents. I think one of my ladies on here was right. I came back for the community but my trust and lightheartedness is gone. I want to share the boys and spouse, the home and life. However, it’s just not a good idea in this day and age. I had no idea people could get so mean. I remember the first time I had trolls on my channel, it was shocking and disturbing. That is why many YouTubers turn off comments or just disappear. Why subject yourself to such hateful energy?

I loved that community and I love the community that has found this spot. I have no idea what the future will bring but for now I’m going to dismiss myself and refocus on the home. I truly don’t have anything more to share. The gossips are correct; I’m not a fantastic cook or homemaker, housecleaner, mother, wife…certainly no guru, not the best writer (that is why I do have an editor), and I have shared all I know. My stories are real, they are not gleaned from Penny Pinching Mama or anywhere else, my life is real and not perfect or set up before I get on camera, my feelings are honest and not faked.

You must have a very thick skin to be in the public. I thought I had one but after a few years of trolls and gossips, I’m tired of it. There is a joke about being online; never read the comments. And yes, they are right.

I’d rather just go back to how life was before. I was peaceful, focused on family. I was always learning, reading, writing. Days were filled with pleasant rituals. I didn’t have this ugliness in my life or mind. And after being raised in abuse most of my life, it’s hard to take it in again.

I thank all of you for years of love, support, encouragement. You have healed and inspired me as much as you say I have you. You all helped me through lonely times and I loved sharing my stories and life with all of you.

186 thoughts on “Time to get out of here.

  1. I’m so sorry these creeps latched on to you. They’re ugly. Inside and out. They hate something about themselves so they project on to others to make themselves feel better. Instead of getting the therapy they desperately need, they’ve turned to a shallow existence. They can’t stomach what they’ll uncover if they look inward.

    When we are a light in the darkness, we attract good but also the broken souls. They wish they had your strength. They wish they had an ounce of your fortitude.

    Pray for them. They’re ugly and lonely.

    I will miss Kate 💖

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  2. Heartbroken for you and your family. Nobody deserves to be targeted like that. Utterly vile! Continue to shine your light, love your family, your neighbors, your community and your garden – you do that so well. Love grows where Kate goes. Take good care of yourself lovely. Say strong.

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  3. Kate,

    Only value the opinions of people you respect.

    I echo that perhaps a private facebook group might be the answer. You can delegate some of us to be admins and help scare out the jerks.

    I am sure reading those horrible comments brought you back to your childhood. You are not that child any more. You are so valued and you make all of our lives in this community better.

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  4. You always need to do what is right for you and your family. I have watched you from the beginning and I have never written a comment on yours or any youtube channel before. However I wanted to convey how much pleasure I received from you and your talks, etc. You are relatable to my life and helps to reaffirm we are all in this together. Trying our best. Sometimes making good decisions and sometimes ones that end up not being so good. That is how we learn and become better human beings which is what life is about.

    As someone who is about two decades older than you I have learned you cannot avoid those who are filled with judgement towards you. I served in public office and there was always name calling and judgement. I worked hard at doing my best for the people I served – I ignored the haters. Haters either out of ignorance or temperament. They are always there – a part of our world. I was able to lay my head on my pillow each night knowing I had done my best and I had only the best intentions in the decisions I made even if some turned out wrong.

    You have said many times that doing the videos and writing are the things you love and are your creative outlet. Life is too short to not do what you love – as someone close to 70 – let me reiterate LIFE IS SHORT. Whatever your decision is make sure you won’t be sitting in your rocking chair one day and be sadden you let others take away your dreams.

    The haters and those who are critical will ALWAYS be amongst us and we will always have to choose to ignore them and not allow them to impact us. I enjoy your channel immensely and will truly miss it AND I do support whatever decision you need to make – this is your life. Thank you again for the many, many hours of enjoyment and I wish you and your family only the best.

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    1. Thank you! I have dealt with it for some time now, no one sees because I block and spam. I sometimes laugh and sometimes I’m shocked. I may return. I have my writing. I just need to pull out of the freak show for a bit and refresh, rejuvinate. I meant to take a long break and rushed right back. I need the rest from this and to live in the present reality… which is my kitchen…my garden…with kids and spouse. Once I’m well rested I may return if it feels good and right and I have something to share. I love this community very much.

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  5. P.S. One more thing. Since Kate says the trolls come here to read her blogs, I hope they read all the comments on today’s blog and see how many people are here to support Kate. She really has this community in her corner and not every one can have that kind of impact on people. Peace.

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  6. Kate,
    While you are writing books, filming videos, cooking, gardening, growing, the trolls are online devoting their time to watching/reading you. They spend their free time feverishly dissecting the life of someone they claim to despise. Have a good laugh at their expense. They don’t deserve more than a little pity for their shallow, empty lives. You are valued by many, I doubt they can say the same.

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  7. Please don’t go. Don’t worry what others say. There are more that love you and respect you and want to see your ways and days – than there are trolls. Please leave the site up and do not clear out everything again. We need our Kate. Come back from time to time and update us and give us your thoughts.
    We love you!

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  8. Kate, I am so very sorry to hear that you have again been the victim of a malicious gossip site. I can’t imagine anyone spending their time this way. Thank you for sharing your wonderful ideas, insights and humor with us here and on youtube. I would love it if there was a way for you to continue in some way such as a private blog or Patreon as others have suggested. I truly enjoyed reading your blog and learning from your videos, as well as the comments from this wonderful community. I am also enjoying reading your books. I will miss you!!

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  9. Hallo Kate,
    please dont Stop your Work.
    These bad people are only jealous.
    And this should tell you you doing Something right.
    If you Stop this Bad people win.
    Your Community loves you.

    Best whishes
    Monika

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  10. The only reason swamp sites and trolls like that exist are to tear people down and they are evil. Nobody looks at their content except those that have the same intentions and feed off of the negativity. Why oh why go visiting the bottom feeders in the dungeon? Why give them the satisfaction of knowing they are succeeding at upsetting you? Why let them win? The only power they have over you is what you give them. Who cares what they say or think, they are nothing to you. You are obviously very loving and wanted and needed in your blog and YouTube communities, why not give your friends and supportive community more weight and importance than some lowlife gossip site? If you don’t react, they will likely tire of you and move on to someone else more fun to pick on. If they don’t give up, who cares? They are nothing to you, so don’t let them control you. At least that’s my two cents for what it’s worth! lol Love you lots and am sending hugs your way! Peace out and be blessed! 💕~Janet~💕

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  11. twaldon822 said it the very best… A little handful of proud women patting themselves on the back compared to the thousands who know and support you… says everything. They are the minority for a reason and they look so, SO stupid! Their little group isn’t worth a second thought.

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  12. I have enjoyed watching you on You Tube and reading your blogs. I am sorry that you have had to deal with hate and gossip. Do what you need to do for yourself and your beautiful family. Be at peace and know you are loved.

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  13. I did read a few comments from the gossip site. One of the people stated she tried to start a youtube channel but got nowhere. Hmmm, seems like the little green monster has come up and bit her in the bum! It is such a shame that a handful of hateful people can stop thousands of people from enjoying your videos and blogs. I hope it gives you some comfort that you received over a thousand subscribers in a very short time when you started over. We will be here when, and if, you decide to return. Hugs pretty lady.

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  14. You wrote one paragraph that sums up why people keep reading your blog and watching your youtube. (I’ll add it below.) This world is full of jealous people who have allowed that jealousy to make them mean and hateful. They are not happy with their lives or they would not have the time of day to gossip about others. They live in a very small world in their own minds. I know a very very wealthy family who have everything they could want. And you know what they have been doing for years in their free time? They went to a very poor area and set up programs for the underprivileged kids there. They taught them how to read, and made sure they had meals and suitable clothing throughout the year. They made sure each had a Christmas meal and presents. But mostly they taught them and made them feel that they are worthy of love just the way they are. And that they are worthy and capable of being and doing whatever they dream. This is what real people do. This is who real women are.

    I have a philosophy that I have formed in my lifetime: When we try to measure ourselves we need to realize that no matter who you are or what you do there will always be someone with more than you and someone with less than you. It’s a sliding scale and we do not always stay in the same place, but the principle stays the same.

    Kate, you are loved because you are you. You are the neighbor everyone wants to have (everyone who cares about humanity). You have your own opinions, but are humble about yourself. This paragraph sums up my statement: “I loved that community and I love the community that has found this spot. I have no idea what the future will bring but for now I’m going to dismiss myself and refocus on the home. I truly don’t have anything more to share. The gossips are correct; I’m not a fantastic cook or homemaker, housecleaner, mother, wife…certainly no guru, not the best writer (that is why I do have an editor), and I have shared all I know. My stories are real, they are not gleaned from Penny Pinching Mama or anywhere else, my life is real and not perfect or set up before I get on camera, my feelings are honest and not faked.” I stand by the statement I’ve made to you in the past “You be you”. Take a break whenever you need to, but just always do it your way and for your reasons.

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    1. I agree with all that Ohiogirl said. And Kate, you said “…not the best writer (that is why I do have an editor)” All writer’s have editors, even the good ones. Most publishers have in-house or freelance editors that edit everything they publish, to follow their style and polish it up. You are no different than Stephen King in that regard 🙂 Besides I love your books.

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    2. “They live in a very small world in their own mind”. YES.. if you look at the things they say about people… they were criticizing another youtube person bc he fed his kids real butter instead of margarine! They know nothing about what’s even in their food! Margarine isn’t even food! They have a narrow world view and can’t deal with anyone living outside of it.

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  15. Heads up. Look what the trolls sent to me under View Comment:
    “. liked your comment on Time to get out of here..
    “Kate, this is a pickle. I’m trying to get up my nerve to look at that site. There are people…”

    View Comment
    You might want to go see what they’re up to! Perhaps you will like their blog as much as they liked your comment!

    Be careful trolls…

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  16. Good afternoon Kate, just read your post with profound disappointment! Do you think Homestead Tessie, prepper princess, Old world home or any other winnpeople on utube give a rats ass about what a pack of dogs on Gossip bakery think? Why are you backing off like you have done something awful and letting them win??It is only human to want to know what others think of us. You yourself said you are creating your own world, but your not. Frankly I am pissed!! at them and you. It should be obvious how many people learn from you and what a wonderful contribution your spirit has on others. Why don’t you go look at what they say about the other utubers? I don’t see them taking a hike and letting those people steal their joy.Im sure they have looked there and read awful stuff and been hurt. Little poet said in her last video that she googled herself. Learn from this and move on,,, don’t leave.. Please. We love you.

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    1. Oh alright! Buuut, I need a long vacation. I need to just focus on home right now and this foster situation. I have some issues on the home front that are personal and need dealing with and then I need to lay about and read Amish fiction for days and then I’ll see if I feel inspired again. These twits have been harassing me for a couple years, they don’t just stay in their “bakery” they come on my channel and blog and change profiles so they can return with nasty comments. Why do you think I pre approve comments? It gets so old.

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  17. I decided to see for myself and so was totally disgusted. You can’t unborn toast. Precisely why I deleted Facebook, Twitter, etc.
    You have my email here Kate. And my support. You have a good heart and a voice that shouldn’t be silenced by paraeahs like them.

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  18. Dear Kate,
    I’m not one to post on any site, but I want you to know that I enjoy what you put out into the world and reading blog and watching your videos makes me happy. I don’t expect perfection and I don’t mind repetition.That’s what happens between friends, and I think that’s what you offer up- an opportunity to take a break from the week or the day and “chat” with a friend. Now of course I know we don’t really know each other, but I’d like to think that in another version of life, if we were to cross paths, that we’d have a connection and become friends. We might even find ourselves sitting on a porch, drinking coffee, watching our kids play, and talk about the “nothing” that makes up everything in life.

    I wish you and your family all the best!

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  19. Dear Kate,
    I’m not one to post on any site, but I want you to know that I enjoy what you put out into the world and reading Your blog and watching your videos makes me happy. I don’t expect perfection and I don’t mind repetition.That’s what happens between friends, and I think that’s what you offer up- an opportunity to take a break from the week or the day and “chat” with a friend. Now of course I know we don’t really know each other, but I’d like to think that in another version of life, if we were to cross paths, that we’d have a connection and become friends. We might even find ourselves sitting on a porch, drinking coffee, watching our kids play, and talk about the “nothing” that makes up everything in life.

    I wish you and your family all the best!

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    1. It’s just been going on for years and wears on the soul. You all don’t see the comments because I preapproved everything. I’m just needing a rest and revival. I’ll leave things up and we will see if the wind gets back in the sails in time. 🙂

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      1. Kate, is there anyone who can do the comments for you? Just saw Tawra on about comments, She has done hers herself for just a day or so and it’s tipped her over the edge. ❤️

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      2. Kate – Why do you preapprove everything? Choose a couple people you trust from this community to preapprove them and then you don’t have to see ANY of the negative comment. They can act as moderators. You don’t need to do everything yourself.

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  20. Hey Kate,
    Just finished a book called “Rosanna of the amish”. IF YOU WOULD LIKE I WILL SEND IT YO U
    Do you still have the same p.o. box?

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  21. Oh Kate. These people are just evil, sad empty-lifers. Take a break, regroup your thoughts and spend time on the things that really matter. Everyone deserves that. But come back. This community is more than the trolls, and if it’s given you joy and a space to express yourself you owe it to yourself to come back. We shall miss you.

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  22. Kate so sorry you are a target of people who are so insecure about themselves that to stroke their own ego’s they need to tear apart others. Never forget your honesty and strength are your cornerstones.You rock Kate ❤️ Sharlene

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  23. Kate you are going to be just fine. Sometimes our skin gets a bit thin and things really bother us. You do know that people are reading the gossip and laughing at them and not you? They are wasting their lives. The things they say are contradictory. Like the one who said she would hide the frozen fries (I think it was) if it was her channel. I wanted to comment and say, so you want to be lied to, you want to see life that’s not real? I typed in some other youtubers into the bakery and some of the same gossips on your thread are on theirs. What a bunch of time wasters. Ages ago, every time I used to visit my sister she was on the laptop and used to say oh I’m just on the bakery, I saw the bakery header picture and never asked what it was. But now I know what she was doing, my sister is a two faced nasty trouble causing gossip. I don’t see her anymore. That tells me everything I need to know about who these people are. SO I SAY TO EVERYONE, LETS NOT GO TO THE BAKERY EVER AGAIN, THEY LOVE IT WHEN THEY GET A RISE FROM SOMEONE. Take your break Kate and lets get that skin toughened back up. Your home is clean and used, your kids are very intelligent and happy, it always amazes me how people think they know more about us than we do ourselves. My family doesn’t even know me and what I do, so how they think they know you is just crazy. Sorry for the essay but I just want to reassure you that everything is going to be ok. ❤️

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  24. Don’t let these people and their childish sites bring you down , they are the ones With big problems . You Vlog and blog to your hearts content I for one will be here watching and reading , i don’t mind you repeating things it just instills them in my mind .Will miss you if you go 😢

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  25. Ah, so glad I had found you back today. I am from Holland. And googled. Ironacly I found you back through gossip bakery. I red their comments and became furious and clicked to your blog. So sorry to hear you stop blogging. I totally understand it. I shall miss your posts very much. Keep going the good work for your family!!

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  26. Hi Kate, I know it is difficult to not read those gossips. I have gone through trolls in real life, not on internet, so I do not know exactly how you feel, but I tell you how I feel after being bullied from my job more than two years ago… I was working and there was full of mean women who tortured me mentally, lied about me, and made everyone I was working with turn against me. I had joy in what I was doing but they stole it away from me. I just could not perform, I was physically and mentally sick… like really bad.. will not give examples.. but I do understand why you would want peace. I honestly do. I do understand some women live only to gossip, like their only joy in life and that is frustrating, but trust me you are doing something they cannot, or you have something they cannot have and that is why they are so bitter towards you. Because I do not understand why else would someone be every single day so bitter and try to make your life miserable so they can sit more comfortably in their own garbage by throwing garbage on others.

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  27. Kate!!!!!! Are you leaving your blog and youtube or just youtube?????? These gossip sites have nothing better to do but to be mean, they will always be there Kate, if it is too much I understand, but if it brings you joy just keep doing it until it doesn’t anymore. I hope you will still do your blog I really enjoy reading it, have a wonderful day Kate :0)

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      1. I am glad Kate, I have seen those stupid remarks on the website you mentioned, it’s not worth it to even comment and tell them off, they have nothing better to do but to look for something to talk about, you rest Kate and don’t even give it a second thought, we will be here always. Peggy :0)

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  28. Dear Kate
    I’m so sorry you had to see such vitriolic and vile comments from those pathetic losers. Who lives like that, sitting for hours binge watching videos with a pen and paper for the sole purpose of gleaning something to make fun of? You could almost feel sorry for them – almost. And it’s not just you those ass-wipes are slamming, it’s us too, your viewers. Why, according to them, we are stupid simpletons, too dumb to realize you and the other channels we follow don’t know anything. It’s surprising we can breathe, we are so far up your rear! Funny, you don’t see any of them putting out a channel or being brave enough to share their life. And I’ve yet to see one of those post of picture of them walking on water. With all that’s going on in the world, this is how they spend their time?
    You must know this – you and your precious family are loved. You had 16,000 subs before and they are – what? Half a dozen low-life woman? Please, no contest!
    You take all the time you need; regroup, refresh, renew. And we will wait for you and your cooking, gardening, decorating, grocery hauls, philosophizing, and just plan chatting. Chin up! See you…… when we see you

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    1. Wow Patty really? I am rather surprised that they are talking about the viewers as well. “Stupid simpletons?” LOL!!!! I have to laugh at that. I am now convinced that Kate should not allow condescending and judgemental people to hold her back. She has to continue engaging with this community one way or the other.

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  29. I have never left a comment in my life but I had to do it and for a good reason. I just found you again and was so happy. I really enjoy your writing, life, thoughts, ideas, cooking and so much more. So much in common.
    Thank you for many enjoyable hours of happiness from your writing and videos. That said, only you know what you need to do and you will be in my prayers. God bless you.

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  30. As a Christian I truly believe that Satan will do whatever he can to destroy those who spread joy and nourish the souls of others. Kate, you my darling are one of those people. He will employ whoever he can to do his work. Those people on that vile channel who say such spiteful things are there to block and test you and many others. You have to ignore them Kate. They are nothing more than devices which are being used against you. Big hug from me in England. X

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  31. Well damn.

    Will you sue them and give them a “cease & desist” order? Or just let it be?

    I hadn’t heard of this group, but I know some bigger YouTubers are on kiwi farms website. Now those people REALLY have no life….WOW. (I doubt you would be there….BUT DO NOT LOOK).

    Hang in there. It’s ok. ❤

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  32. Kate, if you think about it… those people exist everywhere whether they are writing down what they think or not. The friend down the road might say the same things to her husband. I couldn’t believe what I found some of my co-workers thought of me. I was equally shocked when I found letters my husband’s grandma wrote about us. It’s always there in the world. It’s probably better not to know, of course, bc it leaves that bitterness behind. But the bitterness can stifle a person from becoming something great. Keep living and enjoy your life. I read that site (bc of one of Tessie’s videos.. I wish she never brought it up) while I spending so much time at home bc of the pandemic and it’s just a bunch of mean girls that literally have nothing better to do with their time than watch videos to make up lies about. SERIOUSLY.. I don’t even have the time to watch videos I WANT to watch! Do you know why? Because I am being productive in my life and society. Yes, I’m talking to the Gossip Bakery witches who come here to read the comments. If you find someone annoying to read or watch, then don’t watch them! Who are YOU to tell me what to read or watch? Go contribute something real to the world instead of sitting at home, hanging on every word Kate, or Tom Mills, or the mom from Our Tribe of Many (I never saw that channel before and they acted like this woman was a huge abusive woman who starved her kids. I went to that page just to see and the THOUSANDS of dollars they spend on food every month, the variety of meals and plethora of fruits and vegetables.. ARE THESE PEOPLE KIDDING ME?? I subscribed!) It’s so funny because Kate tries to help people find some zen from staying home and these people just squander their time on gossip sites and critiquing other people’s lifestyles. And if they are working at a 9-5 job all day and spending their free time that way, then it’s even more sad. Truly, go spend that time with your family or friends… or volunteer at a soup kitchen! Anyway, it’s just really a HANDFUL of them who have a negative outlook on life. Imagine, they see the whole world that way EVERY DAY! Who cares what they think??? Keep on keeping on.

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  33. It is unfortunate that those on Gossip Bakery doesn’t have a life. They are stalkers who are jealous and are Bullies.

    I love your vlogs and blogs. You are so creative and I definitely enjoy spending time at your home via your creative outlets.

    They are the ones loosing out. We shall ignore them.

    Take care.

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  34. I feel like your breaking up with me again. I only want the best for you and your family….I feel like we are family…..thank you for your sunshine you brought to my life.Being a full time care giver to my adult son…I often feel lonely and isolated…thanks for helping me through. I am sure hoping you return to us someday. Stay strong girl….lots of love out there in the universe for you!😘

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    1. Read the last blog, lol. We are not breaking up. 🙂 I’ll continue on but I need a huge break. Been at this so long and dealing with strange cyber space issues for too long. I will definitely keep the blog…still pondering what to do with the YT.

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  35. HI Kate, I got here late. When you left for a bit I kept googling you and came across the gossip bakery. I understand your thoughts and feelings.

    All I can say is, what if you didn’t share too much? What if you did absolutely nothing wrong? Are you measured by your worst critics? It honestly felt like a void when your online presence was gone. Of course you need to do what is best for you but your blog and channel and books clearly create so much joy for you and us.

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    1. I agree. I wrote a blog after that saying I just needed rest. I just posted a blog yesterday? I’m back now. I was worn out from the fostering and needed some time to reflect, go within and decide what was best for me and the family. I felt so violated and the gossip was so disturbing…having people dissect and analyze everything about you…it’s unnerving and creepy. But I have realized they are creepy in doing so and they are poisoning themselves and others who choose to join. I spread hope and light and I have decided to continue that.

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