Time to get out of here.

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Good morning, everyone. I have been up since very early and I did something foolish that I have not done before, even with all the warnings. I went on the Gossip Bakery site and fell down the dark hole. And all I can say is…wow.

They choose YouTubers and just go for it. Some of them, and I know you (Gossip Bakery) all will read and share this now, seem obsessed. There were videos up with my dialogue analyzed, my blogs up with things highlighted and underlined. There were even minutes taken on so many of my past videos. It’s crazy, as if they study and take notes from years of videos and blogs. Who has time for this? And why? As they say, I’m not that interesting.

I wish I hadn’t gone on there, you can’t unburn toast, as my son says. But it is done.

Oh well. I rather not be the subject for anyone’s rampages. I was foolish with the first channel in sharing too much. I was new and had no idea what I was getting into. This time I was foolish to come back.

I used to love blogging and vlogging. I would sit with my coffee and write and it was my peaceful, happy space. Not anymore. I feel like it has all been defiled. I can literally feel the inspiration and joy being drained from my soul. I wish I had never been told of that site. Ignorance is bliss. But some tried to be protective and for that I’m appreciative.

So, there are no accidents. I think one of my ladies on here was right. I came back for the community but my trust and lightheartedness is gone. I want to share the boys and spouse, the home and life. However, it’s just not a good idea in this day and age. I had no idea people could get so mean. I remember the first time I had trolls on my channel, it was shocking and disturbing. That is why many YouTubers turn off comments or just disappear. Why subject yourself to such hateful energy?

I loved that community and I love the community that has found this spot. I have no idea what the future will bring but for now I’m going to dismiss myself and refocus on the home. I truly don’t have anything more to share. The gossips are correct; I’m not a fantastic cook or homemaker, housecleaner, mother, wife…certainly no guru, not the best writer (that is why I do have an editor), and I have shared all I know. My stories are real, they are not gleaned from Penny Pinching Mama or anywhere else, my life is real and not perfect or set up before I get on camera, my feelings are honest and not faked.

You must have a very thick skin to be in the public. I thought I had one but after a few years of trolls and gossips, I’m tired of it. There is a joke about being online; never read the comments. And yes, they are right.

I’d rather just go back to how life was before. I was peaceful, focused on family. I was always learning, reading, writing. Days were filled with pleasant rituals. I didn’t have this ugliness in my life or mind. And after being raised in abuse most of my life, it’s hard to take it in again.

I thank all of you for years of love, support, encouragement. You have healed and inspired me as much as you say I have you. You all helped me through lonely times and I loved sharing my stories and life with all of you.

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  1. Oh it won’t, I just had no sleep last night and truly, I need a vacation and to deal with some family issues privately. Then I will feel my old self again. This is nothing new. I’ve dealt with this for a couple years now. They come on my site all the time and try and rough me up.

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  2. Oh Kate. These people are just evil, sad empty-lifers. Take a break, regroup your thoughts and spend time on the things that really matter. Everyone deserves that. But come back. This community is more than the trolls, and if it’s given you joy and a space to express yourself you owe it to yourself to come back. We shall miss you.

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  3. Kate so sorry you are a target of people who are so insecure about themselves that to stroke their own ego’s they need to tear apart others. Never forget your honesty and strength are your cornerstones.You rock Kate ❤️ Sharlene

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  4. Kate you are going to be just fine. Sometimes our skin gets a bit thin and things really bother us. You do know that people are reading the gossip and laughing at them and not you? They are wasting their lives. The things they say are contradictory. Like the one who said she would hide the frozen fries (I think it was) if it was her channel. I wanted to comment and say, so you want to be lied to, you want to see life that’s not real? I typed in some other youtubers into the bakery and some of the same gossips on your thread are on theirs. What a bunch of time wasters. Ages ago, every time I used to visit my sister she was on the laptop and used to say oh I’m just on the bakery, I saw the bakery header picture and never asked what it was. But now I know what she was doing, my sister is a two faced nasty trouble causing gossip. I don’t see her anymore. That tells me everything I need to know about who these people are. SO I SAY TO EVERYONE, LETS NOT GO TO THE BAKERY EVER AGAIN, THEY LOVE IT WHEN THEY GET A RISE FROM SOMEONE. Take your break Kate and lets get that skin toughened back up. Your home is clean and used, your kids are very intelligent and happy, it always amazes me how people think they know more about us than we do ourselves. My family doesn’t even know me and what I do, so how they think they know you is just crazy. Sorry for the essay but I just want to reassure you that everything is going to be ok. ❤️

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  5. Kate, is there anyone who can do the comments for you? Just saw Tawra on about comments, She has done hers herself for just a day or so and it’s tipped her over the edge. ❤️

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  6. Don’t let these people and their childish sites bring you down , they are the ones With big problems . You Vlog and blog to your hearts content I for one will be here watching and reading , i don’t mind you repeating things it just instills them in my mind .Will miss you if you go 😢

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  7. Ah, so glad I had found you back today. I am from Holland. And googled. Ironacly I found you back through gossip bakery. I red their comments and became furious and clicked to your blog. So sorry to hear you stop blogging. I totally understand it. I shall miss your posts very much. Keep going the good work for your family!!

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  8. Hi Kate, I know it is difficult to not read those gossips. I have gone through trolls in real life, not on internet, so I do not know exactly how you feel, but I tell you how I feel after being bullied from my job more than two years ago… I was working and there was full of mean women who tortured me mentally, lied about me, and made everyone I was working with turn against me. I had joy in what I was doing but they stole it away from me. I just could not perform, I was physically and mentally sick… like really bad.. will not give examples.. but I do understand why you would want peace. I honestly do. I do understand some women live only to gossip, like their only joy in life and that is frustrating, but trust me you are doing something they cannot, or you have something they cannot have and that is why they are so bitter towards you. Because I do not understand why else would someone be every single day so bitter and try to make your life miserable so they can sit more comfortably in their own garbage by throwing garbage on others.

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  9. Kate!!!!!! Are you leaving your blog and youtube or just youtube?????? These gossip sites have nothing better to do but to be mean, they will always be there Kate, if it is too much I understand, but if it brings you joy just keep doing it until it doesn’t anymore. I hope you will still do your blog I really enjoy reading it, have a wonderful day Kate :0)

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  10. Dear Kate
    I’m so sorry you had to see such vitriolic and vile comments from those pathetic losers. Who lives like that, sitting for hours binge watching videos with a pen and paper for the sole purpose of gleaning something to make fun of? You could almost feel sorry for them – almost. And it’s not just you those ass-wipes are slamming, it’s us too, your viewers. Why, according to them, we are stupid simpletons, too dumb to realize you and the other channels we follow don’t know anything. It’s surprising we can breathe, we are so far up your rear! Funny, you don’t see any of them putting out a channel or being brave enough to share their life. And I’ve yet to see one of those post of picture of them walking on water. With all that’s going on in the world, this is how they spend their time?
    You must know this – you and your precious family are loved. You had 16,000 subs before and they are – what? Half a dozen low-life woman? Please, no contest!
    You take all the time you need; regroup, refresh, renew. And we will wait for you and your cooking, gardening, decorating, grocery hauls, philosophizing, and just plan chatting. Chin up! See you…… when we see you

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  11. I have never left a comment in my life but I had to do it and for a good reason. I just found you again and was so happy. I really enjoy your writing, life, thoughts, ideas, cooking and so much more. So much in common.
    Thank you for many enjoyable hours of happiness from your writing and videos. That said, only you know what you need to do and you will be in my prayers. God bless you.

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  12. Kate – Why do you preapprove everything? Choose a couple people you trust from this community to preapprove them and then you don’t have to see ANY of the negative comment. They can act as moderators. You don’t need to do everything yourself.

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  13. As a Christian I truly believe that Satan will do whatever he can to destroy those who spread joy and nourish the souls of others. Kate, you my darling are one of those people. He will employ whoever he can to do his work. Those people on that vile channel who say such spiteful things are there to block and test you and many others. You have to ignore them Kate. They are nothing more than devices which are being used against you. Big hug from me in England. X

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  14. Wow Patty really? I am rather surprised that they are talking about the viewers as well. “Stupid simpletons?” LOL!!!! I have to laugh at that. I am now convinced that Kate should not allow condescending and judgemental people to hold her back. She has to continue engaging with this community one way or the other.

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  15. I am glad Kate, I have seen those stupid remarks on the website you mentioned, it’s not worth it to even comment and tell them off, they have nothing better to do but to look for something to talk about, you rest Kate and don’t even give it a second thought, we will be here always. Peggy :0)

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  16. Well damn.

    Will you sue them and give them a “cease & desist” order? Or just let it be?

    I hadn’t heard of this group, but I know some bigger YouTubers are on kiwi farms website. Now those people REALLY have no life….WOW. (I doubt you would be there….BUT DO NOT LOOK).

    Hang in there. It’s ok. ❤

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  17. Kate, if you think about it… those people exist everywhere whether they are writing down what they think or not. The friend down the road might say the same things to her husband. I couldn’t believe what I found some of my co-workers thought of me. I was equally shocked when I found letters my husband’s grandma wrote about us. It’s always there in the world. It’s probably better not to know, of course, bc it leaves that bitterness behind. But the bitterness can stifle a person from becoming something great. Keep living and enjoy your life. I read that site (bc of one of Tessie’s videos.. I wish she never brought it up) while I spending so much time at home bc of the pandemic and it’s just a bunch of mean girls that literally have nothing better to do with their time than watch videos to make up lies about. SERIOUSLY.. I don’t even have the time to watch videos I WANT to watch! Do you know why? Because I am being productive in my life and society. Yes, I’m talking to the Gossip Bakery witches who come here to read the comments. If you find someone annoying to read or watch, then don’t watch them! Who are YOU to tell me what to read or watch? Go contribute something real to the world instead of sitting at home, hanging on every word Kate, or Tom Mills, or the mom from Our Tribe of Many (I never saw that channel before and they acted like this woman was a huge abusive woman who starved her kids. I went to that page just to see and the THOUSANDS of dollars they spend on food every month, the variety of meals and plethora of fruits and vegetables.. ARE THESE PEOPLE KIDDING ME?? I subscribed!) It’s so funny because Kate tries to help people find some zen from staying home and these people just squander their time on gossip sites and critiquing other people’s lifestyles. And if they are working at a 9-5 job all day and spending their free time that way, then it’s even more sad. Truly, go spend that time with your family or friends… or volunteer at a soup kitchen! Anyway, it’s just really a HANDFUL of them who have a negative outlook on life. Imagine, they see the whole world that way EVERY DAY! Who cares what they think??? Keep on keeping on.

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  18. “They live in a very small world in their own mind”. YES.. if you look at the things they say about people… they were criticizing another youtube person bc he fed his kids real butter instead of margarine! They know nothing about what’s even in their food! Margarine isn’t even food! They have a narrow world view and can’t deal with anyone living outside of it.

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  19. It is unfortunate that those on Gossip Bakery doesn’t have a life. They are stalkers who are jealous and are Bullies.

    I love your vlogs and blogs. You are so creative and I definitely enjoy spending time at your home via your creative outlets.

    They are the ones loosing out. We shall ignore them.

    Take care.

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  20. I feel like your breaking up with me again. I only want the best for you and your family….I feel like we are family…..thank you for your sunshine you brought to my life.Being a full time care giver to my adult son…I often feel lonely and isolated…thanks for helping me through. I am sure hoping you return to us someday. Stay strong girl….lots of love out there in the universe for you!😘

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  21. Read the last blog, lol. We are not breaking up. 🙂 I’ll continue on but I need a huge break. Been at this so long and dealing with strange cyber space issues for too long. I will definitely keep the blog…still pondering what to do with the YT.

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  22. Goodness, I had every single of online accounts hacked. Even, my fitbit. I sealed everything up and changed passwords.

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  23. HI Kate, I got here late. When you left for a bit I kept googling you and came across the gossip bakery. I understand your thoughts and feelings.

    All I can say is, what if you didn’t share too much? What if you did absolutely nothing wrong? Are you measured by your worst critics? It honestly felt like a void when your online presence was gone. Of course you need to do what is best for you but your blog and channel and books clearly create so much joy for you and us.

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  24. I agree. I wrote a blog after that saying I just needed rest. I just posted a blog yesterday? I’m back now. I was worn out from the fostering and needed some time to reflect, go within and decide what was best for me and the family. I felt so violated and the gossip was so disturbing…having people dissect and analyze everything about you…it’s unnerving and creepy. But I have realized they are creepy in doing so and they are poisoning themselves and others who choose to join. I spread hope and light and I have decided to continue that.

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  25. I agree there is something serious wrong with the gossip bakery members. They write some slanderous comments. I’m all for freedom of speech, but some take it too far. I started getting messages from Google to reset my password. I got this message after having a dispute with a bakery member. It made me wonder if that member in question was looking to find out my personal information. They come across as ruthless, evil sleuths and will find out everything. Is there an agency to report gossip bakery? Thanks

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  26. Hi, I’ve reported them on the gossip site and you can even go to the police if it gets out of control. They think they are safe behind false names and their computer but the police department can find anyone and if they are in another state they just contact that police department.

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