Making choices to improve one’s life.

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Making big decisions is difficult. We wrestle with a gang of opposers such as the ego, our self image, how we want to be perceived by others, our acceptance of ourselves and by others, and fear.

Good old fear. That friend needs to go. Fear sits in a corner wringing its hands and rocking back and forth reciting all the things that could go wrong. It fills the room with a dark, stinky cloud of misery and holds us back.

I’ve covered this topic very recently but it needs to be discussed a million times. How many times have we not done something fun, wonderful, something that could have changed the whole path of our life and fortune because of fear.

We use logic and rational thought to make decisions but anyone who believes in metaphysical ways or has read Florence Scovel Shinn knows that type of thinking is the death to all dreams.

There are so many things I dreamt of that had family and friends rolling their eyes or exchanging looks that said, “she’s got to be kidding if she thinks that’ll happen.” Or you share a dream and there is silence on the other end of the phone. I was never encouraged to dream big. It was either pointed out how impossible it was to do a thing or met with silence or that polite way of dismissing a crazy dreamer, “Well, isn’t that a nice idea, dear.”

Don’t share your dreams. I know we want to run through the village knocking on doors and talk in detail of how fantastical it will all be. But don’t. Keep it to yourself. Well meaning people have a way of making dreams crawl, ashamed under a rock.

Sometimes we try on a dream and, as excited and sure we were it was a perfect suit, it doesn’t fit us at all. That is ok. That is how we find our path, our true destiny. Some find it right away. They have a dream one night and write that hit novel that becomes a hit film. They start that eco friendly company and are listed as one of Fortune 500’s green gods. For some it is as simple as a moment, a chance encounter.

For some of us we are in wardrobe for years trying on costumes until we find that perfect role.

I used to share everything. Every thought, every fart, every moment. I’ve since learned to keep my mouth shut and focus on the path before me. To be quiet and listen for Spirits guidance.

I’ve also learned that the only opinions that matter are from myself and my immediate family. My partner and children. And dogs. They have an opinion and say as well.

Buuuttt…there are times my partner is not fully on board. I still go ahead and do this thing. There are a few times I went on and fulfilled the prophecy because I could see our future and it did work out great and now my spouse is happy as a hog. My kids are usually on board, but we have had many lives together so we seem to be working toward the same goals.

Then there are the fails. I just try to clean those up quietly and suggest we don’t speak of them again.

Follow that hunch. It may not seem like a stable thing to do, but it is the most true thing there is in your life. It is you soul trying to redirect you. Hunches lead to new lives. Trust me.

16 thoughts on “Making choices to improve one’s life.

  1. I love this post! Dreaming keeps us Young and optimistic. I have been dreaming a lot lately and it feels so good. I have loved the dreams that you shared with us. Thank you so much.

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  2. Yep. Giving TMI has sunk my ship more than once. Weaned that impulse over time. Had to learn my lesson more than once. I am curious about something. Lately, I have noticed that you refer to your hubby as your partner. Is that significant? (i.e. less patriarchal)

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  3. I didn’t dare to dream for 15 years. I was too focused and too busy taking care of my parents and once they were both gone I was too exhausted. It’s been three years now since they’ve been gone and 2020 has been the year I’ve dared to begin to dream. Life is too short to not dream. Since this is all new to me I’ll heed your advice and keep things to myself for now. I want to be selfish for the first time in forever. I think that will be okay. Thanks, Kate. Happy Friday.

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  4. This email of ‘follow that hunch’ was perfect for me today 🙂 Ive been debating making some changes to our 401k. Today, i jumped out there and followed my hunch! Wont know how it goes for a few months, but im pleased i shut down the fear and did it! Im so glad to have found your new page. Sadly, I didnt quite make it through your old archives 😦 Many blessings to you, your husband, and beautiful children!! Anita Watkins

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  5. So happy to be reading your blogs again! I keep trying to follow but it says to give a real email addy. The addy I’m putting in is my real addy and what I used on your last blog.

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  6. What wonderful advice – to eliminate fear from our thinking and envisioning. Fear tries to squash our dreams right from the get-go! I am also reminded not to be the one to unintentionally trample on anyone else’s dream either, out of an abundance of concern, caution and logic. Thank you for writing this today!

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  7. I agree completely with everything you said. My problem is I don’t have any hunches right now. I’m having a hard time coming up with dreams of things I want to do. I would love it if you talk more about breaking through those dry spells when you can’t figure out what it is that you do want. When you kind of get stuck in the day-to-day of life and stop dreaming. Let me be very clear,I am very happy in my life but I do want more, but I just don’t know what I want. I’ve had no direction like you did about your house, or any of the other direction that you felt come your way. In the past I have had that. I just don’t know where it is right now and how to get it back.I believe in following those little hunches or gut feelings. It’s just been a while since I felt one.

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  8. My biggest hunch, my only hunch that created a fairly significant change in the world, would, by neccessity involve oversharing. I am Autistic, which goes hand in hand with oversharing. And, had I not “overshared” in the first place, then there never would have been the circumstances that triggerred the hunch that I acted on. I really need to think about this.

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  9. Right now I am dreaming of a long, cool Autumn with lots of color and no humidity. Along with that I want this virus to completely disappear off the face of the earth. I know I can’t control that, but dreaming about it makes me happy and being happy makes even the mundane things in life so much better.

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  10. I always enjoy reading your posts, but I disagree with you on one thing – what you do with your fails. It is no fun to fail, but it is important to spend time thinking about the fails and working out why they were fails, and then learning from them. We need to understand what doesn’t work for us so we can learn and hopefully make better choices in the future. And sometimes things seem right and good until you try them, and then you realise they will not work for you. That is okay. You learn and move forward again. Making mistakes, and learning from them, is important if we are to grow and develop.

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  11. I always enjoy reading your posts, but I disagree with you on one thing – what you do with your fails. It is no fun to fail, but it is important to spend time thinking about the fails and working out why they were fails, and then learning from them. We need to understand what doesn’t work for us so we can learn and hopefully make better choices in the future. And sometimes things seem right and good until you try them, and then you realise they will not work for you. That is okay. You learn and move forward again. Making mistakes, and learning from them, is important if we are to grow and develop.

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