Making big decisions is difficult. We wrestle with a gang of opposers such as the ego, our self image, how we want to be perceived by others, our acceptance of ourselves and by others, and fear.
Good old fear. That friend needs to go. Fear sits in a corner wringing its hands and rocking back and forth reciting all the things that could go wrong. It fills the room with a dark, stinky cloud of misery and holds us back.
I’ve covered this topic very recently but it needs to be discussed a million times. How many times have we not done something fun, wonderful, something that could have changed the whole path of our life and fortune because of fear.
We use logic and rational thought to make decisions but anyone who believes in metaphysical ways or has read Florence Scovel Shinn knows that type of thinking is the death to all dreams.
There are so many things I dreamt of that had family and friends rolling their eyes or exchanging looks that said, “she’s got to be kidding if she thinks that’ll happen.” Or you share a dream and there is silence on the other end of the phone. I was never encouraged to dream big. It was either pointed out how impossible it was to do a thing or met with silence or that polite way of dismissing a crazy dreamer, “Well, isn’t that a nice idea, dear.”
Don’t share your dreams. I know we want to run through the village knocking on doors and talk in detail of how fantastical it will all be. But don’t. Keep it to yourself. Well meaning people have a way of making dreams crawl, ashamed under a rock.
Sometimes we try on a dream and, as excited and sure we were it was a perfect suit, it doesn’t fit us at all. That is ok. That is how we find our path, our true destiny. Some find it right away. They have a dream one night and write that hit novel that becomes a hit film. They start that eco friendly company and are listed as one of Fortune 500’s green gods. For some it is as simple as a moment, a chance encounter.
For some of us we are in wardrobe for years trying on costumes until we find that perfect role.
I used to share everything. Every thought, every fart, every moment. I’ve since learned to keep my mouth shut and focus on the path before me. To be quiet and listen for Spirits guidance.
I’ve also learned that the only opinions that matter are from myself and my immediate family. My partner and children. And dogs. They have an opinion and say as well.
Buuuttt…there are times my partner is not fully on board. I still go ahead and do this thing. There are a few times I went on and fulfilled the prophecy because I could see our future and it did work out great and now my spouse is happy as a hog. My kids are usually on board, but we have had many lives together so we seem to be working toward the same goals.
Then there are the fails. I just try to clean those up quietly and suggest we don’t speak of them again.
Follow that hunch. It may not seem like a stable thing to do, but it is the most true thing there is in your life. It is you soul trying to redirect you. Hunches lead to new lives. Trust me.